Wednesday, February 12, 2014


So Anonymous says (sic):
"Don't you think you are asking alot from a school? I fele very sorry for you and know your son needs extra care and attention but it sounds like the school is doing the best it can. Teachers are overwhelmed just dealing with kids without special needs. We ask too much of our teachers and admins. I do hope things improve for you and Andrew."

So I reply:  
Jenny said...
In most school districts classes - especially in a class with three or four children with special needs they have an aid. In NY Andrew always stood next to the aid during transition times. I'm not asking for one on one attention  I'm asking for common sense. If he breaks down during line up stand next to the teacher or aid. And I've volunteered to be an aid to help out. They take volunteers at the school. Andrew's teacher is amazing. The admin is amazing. But we've had to go through seven months of hell before we can start the classification process again to get him extra help. It's the school district that lacks common sense. Are people so overwhelmed they can't have someone stand next to them? Don't leave a comment without leaving your name. I know who you are anyway.

I've thought about this all morning.  YES, I do expect a lot from the school.  YES, I do expect each child - every, single child to be safe and be afforded the same education.  YES, I do expect that when a child has autism, ADHD, OCD, bipolar disease, Downs Syndrome, Cerebral Palsy - any issues whatsoever, that in the GREATEST FUCKING COUNTRY IN THE WORLD - that that child is given what he needs.  
If it requires that an adult be close to him during transitions so that he doesn't hurt another child with a push or a harsh word - YES.  How the holy fuck do you think it makes me feel when he hits or hurts another child?  It makes me feel like death - yes - death.  I feel like a part of me dies every fucking time he does something wrong.
What if your child was pushed or hurt because my child misinterpreted something - would you expect your child to be protected?  Should my child be home schooled - which EVERY SINGLE ONE of Andrew's health care providers screams NO.  Do you want my child to turn into Adam Lanza?  Do you want my child to be isolated and abandoned by a society that helps every fucking country in the world?  I am mad - yes - I'm mad because Anonymous doesn't have the common courtesy to leave her name.  She can disagree with me - but do so with a face.  Not in a cowardly faceless way.  
I have great respect for teachers and school staff.  But in this day and age everyone no matter what the job complains that they are overworked and underpaid.  I would give my left arm to work again.  Before Andrew I was a paralegal but I would work in a grocery store - putting sprinkles on a donut for eight hours a day.  I worked from the time I was 9 years old - helping neighbors with housework for money, when I was 11 I was cleaning the nun's home - for money - which was given to my father for bills.  I worked three jobs for many years to make ends meet and to support my family.

I haven't worked since Andrew was born - how can I hold a job when I'm being called repeatedly throughout the day or week to pick up my child.  I can't - no employer wants that.  I wanted to work in the evenings but Jim's call schedule didn't allow it and basically Jim won't allow it.  He's right - I'm mentally and physically exhausted now and I do have a job.  MY JOB is to make sure my child is safe and cared for.   My job is to teach my child not to act out in anger.  My job is to control my lupus and other medical conditions so I can make sure Andrew is cared for. 

SO YES, Anonymous, I do expect a lot for my child and every other child.  
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